If you like a girl, but you are not sure whether your liking is good or true, so you keep this feeling in your heart and dare not say it out. Firstly, I am afraid that my liking will bring a burden to the other person, and secondly, I want to confirm my true inner thoughts, whether I really like him or just have a good impression. If it were me in the past, I would definitely say to you, "This is the only time in your life. Someone else may also like the person you like. If you don't tell them, wouldn't you regret missing it?"

But now, as a mature man, I think we must be responsible for what we say and do. So today I will analyze for you from three aspects what a mature man’s view of love should be like? Hope it's useful to you.

Mature men’s views on love

1. How dare you say you like it if you don’t understand it?

They all say: “In the past, cars and horses were very slow, and letters were far away. Just enough to love one person.” But in this impetuous environment, everything seems to have changed. Nowadays, transportation can reach anywhere, now WeChat can be sent to anyone, and now love can be said to many people. However, in this hurry, can we really say that we like each other? Is it love at first sight or lust?

In the past few years in big cities, my biggest feeling is that everyone deals with love and work in the same way. Look Once they meet each other, they stay together, and then break up after a while. Not long after we got to know each other, I confessed to the other person on the phone that I like you. Even now when I think about it, I still feel a little ridiculous.

Especially after leaving campus, everything has changed. It seems that if the other person is good-looking, you will say that you like them, and then launch a fierce offensive. If it works, you will be next. But will such a relationship really last?

Many times I have thought about this answer, obviously not, because you don’t understand the other person, how can you say you like them. It's like taking a test paper. You haven't studied it yet. You just answer based on your feelings. It's weird that you get a high score in the end. The second thing is when you don’t understand the other person, what should you do if the other person has a side that you can’t accept? Or what should I do if the other person feels that you are not her type?

So, sometimes being slower is not a bad thing.

2. True love is that after reading a thousand sails, it will still be you.

Love in today’s era, if you can encounter such a sincere relationship, no matter how many sins you suffer, no matter what you miss, How long it took and how much I went through were all worth it.

So, if you want to determine whether you really like someone, you might as well take another look. After you experience a little more things and meet a few more people, you will actually know the answer. If you can't figure out the answer at this time, it means you haven't figured it out yet.

Just like my previous trip to Yunnan, my friend asked me a question: "Which place do you like best during this trip? "To be honest, I couldn't figure it out at the time, and most of the time I traveled alone. It felt like this trip was the same everywhere. But when I left Lijiang later, I suddenly understood that I like Lijiang the most.

Because I met a lot of friends there, experienced a lot of things I had never experienced before, and lived there for a long time. You see, some of the answers are true. It takes time and experience to figure it out. The same goes for relationships. When you have met all kinds of people and experienced all kinds of things, you will know the answer.

3. A mature view of love is a comprehensive consideration. The final result

When a mature person treats feelings, it is never a unilateral choice, but the result of comprehensive consideration.

For example, you cannot unilaterally look at what the other person looks like. , but to see whether the other person’s outlook on life, consumption, and views on things are consistent with yours, and whether you can be yourself in front of the other person, etc. If it is just a one-sided consideration, then treat it as the other person’s. After the points gradually disappear, the relationship will not last long.

Just like if you like the other person to be good-looking, then one day the other person is no longer young and you meet someone more beautiful than her, you will still do the same. Falling in love with another person

But when you can observe a person from multiple aspects, the chance of you making a mistake is very small. It will become smaller.

For example, if the other person is very motivated, does well in his career, and is careful in doing things, he will always be happy whether you encounter difficulties or he encounters difficulties. Be able to resolve it proactively instead of complaining. For example, you can relax in front of each other and show your truest side instead of being tense.

To do this, you need to start from the beginning. Observe yourself from the inside and observe the other person from the outside. Because in this process, you have to see whether the two people are really compatible and suitable. If you only rely on feelings, then congratulations, you may be wrong, because compared to what he says, you will be wrong. Your behavior can explain everything.

Summary: A mature man’s view on love is “give yourself more time when choosing the person you like, and don’t just say you like someone else based on one side.” This is not only irresponsible to the person you like, but also irresponsible to yourself if you make the wrong choice. After all, the rest of your life is so long, don’t make a decision in a hurry, and you will also meet the right person.