It is said that as long as a woman cheats once, she will cheat countless times. Therefore, when it comes to cheating, most people's opinions are to encourage divorce rather than reconciliation. Even so, there are still men who still refuse to divorce when a woman cheats. , what is the mentality of such a man?

1. For the sake of children

There is a This is a very sad situation, that is, "we will get divorced after the children's college entrance examination is over." Every year after the college entrance examination, the couples who line up for divorce at the Civil Affairs Bureau testify to this sadness. Perhaps when you learned that your partner was cheating on you, the growth of your children also became a timer for your marriage.

For the sake of the children, many men have become the reason why they do not divorce after a woman cheats. For the sake of the children, they will only dare to get rid of this marriage when the children can accept it and bear it alone. , cowardly yet brave, is the helplessness of every pair of parents.

Two: Ability

Some people cannot accept cheating in marriage, saying that this is the bottom line, but one is very cruel The reality is that everyone has a bottom line, but not ability. How many bottom lines become vulnerable in the face of real ability.

I have seen such a couple. The wife has been cheating on her for many years, but the husband has always swallowed his anger. His friends angrily defended him and kept urging him to leave the scumbag. He sighed helplessly and silently listed Now, make a list of your life after divorce, including your own daily expenses and the cost of raising your children.

The man said, "It's not that I haven't thought about divorce. Who can allow his wife to have a family outside the home? But after the divorce, when all my unwillingness and grievances turned into these final When the numbers came up, I knew I had to suck it up, at least for now.” Marriage should never be a salvation from our sufferings, but should be a choice that makes the icing on the cake.

Therefore, when a marriage encounters changes, the ability to maintain one's own bottom line is more important than the urge to divorce directly after discovering that one's partner has cheated.

Three: Feelings

Marriage is not a simple separation. It is a fact that she cheated on you. You love each other. It is also true that this is not as simple as one plus one equals two.

In an unsatisfactory marriage, many people are not reluctant to let go, but are reluctant to let go. Memories, attachment, family affection, tacit understanding... these cannot be replaced by someone with the right personality. of.

So many times, when someone asks me if my partner has cheated on her and whether she should get divorced, I can’t tell her.

Divorce or stay together, because this is not a simple multiple-choice question. If your relationship is acceptable and she accidentally cheats, the marriage can be repaired.Oh, don't get divorced impulsively.

Four: Marriage is a kind of practice

It is said that marriage is a practice. Since it is a practice, There will be a time when it cannot be broken. At this time, two people need to work together to manage the marriage and rebuild the intimate relationship.

But if you are both on the verge of collapse, cheating will only accelerate the breakdown of the marriage, or the other party may not think cheating is wrong, but blame you for not being able to give him or her the love he wants.

Divorce is the beginning of your new life. Instead of torturing each other in the dilemma of not being willing to stay or leave, it is better to show some courage to break the boat. Marriage is not everything to you, your life is what you deserve most. Well taken care of.

Of course, we don’t have to be so pessimistic. There is a bitter and helpless side to marriage, but there must also be a sweet and happy side. What we have to do is not to limit ourselves to a bad marriage. When you accept the world, the world will also reward you with good things.