When flirting with girls, many boys complain that girls ignore them and ask for help. In fact, most boys should reflect on whether there is something wrong with their chatting thinking. If they use straight male thinking to flirt with girls, then In most cases, girls' sensitive and fragile little hearts will be ying ying ying. If they want to have the correct thinking when chatting, they need to correct their straight habits.
The chatting thinking of straight men is usually: chatting to solve problems, and then make a perfect summary through some abstract sentences.
Girls’ chatting thinking is usually: a chatting method of expressing emotions, and an associative thinking of talking about whatever comes to mind.
After understanding the difference in the chatting thinking of men and women, you should be able to better understand the awkward conversations that occur when flirting with girls. Because the two people are not on the same channel, it is difficult to chat.
Scenario example:
Girls are "too boring and can only watch dramas"
Straight man "Those soap operas about me and me are really boring, so I rarely follow dramas. I prefer playing games" (boring)
Boy "There are also many interesting things in film and television dramas. You What types do you like?” (Positive, topical continuity)
From the above examples, we can see that different response methods can achieve different chat effects. Therefore, when flirting with girls, try to avoid direct dialogue and continue and develop the topic as much as possible, so that girls will be interested in chatting with you.
Scenario example:
Girlfriend "invites me to watch a movie"
Male Friend: "Can I invite you to watch a movie?"
Girlfriend: "This is too childish, you should change your approach"
Boyfriend: "Come to the movies with me"< /p>
Girlfriend: “You didn’t even ask me if I wanted to, that’s disrespectful”
Boyfriend: “I want to go see a movie, but I don’t want to watch it without you”< /p>
From the conversation between the couple, it can be seen that although the girl is a bit pretentious, it clearly reveals the chatting thoughts that the girl is interested in - she hopes to have a romantic and respectful conversation. When boys learn this way of thinking about chatting, they can chat in any way.
Scenario example:
Girl "What are you doing?"
The straight man is "at work, making KPI statistics." (behavioral expression, lack of extension of the topic)
The boy is "at work, but my neck feels sore and I want someone to squeeze it~"(Behavior + Feeling + Extension of Topic)
Remember that girls' chat focuses on the communication of emotions and feelings. Therefore, when chatting, boys should put their feelings between the lines, so that your chat will not Cold.
