Many boys don’t know how to chat after adding girls on WeChat on a blind date. In fact, the chat itself is not important. What is important is how you use the chat “tool” to make girls feel. This principle is very simple. When you chat with a girl on a blind date, the core thing is the emotional value you bring to her through chatting. Let me share with you how to chat with a girl on a blind date via WeChat? Increase favorability through chatting.

1. Topics for blind date chats

If you don’t know how to chat with a girl on a blind date using WeChat – that means you don’t know what to talk about! In fact, this question is quite simple. Everything you see related to girls on blind dates is a topic.

For example, if you see her WeChat avatar, nickname, friend circle, her reply speed, and the messages she replies to, they are all topics, and you can use them to chat about any one of them. You can also browse the friend circle of the girl you are dating to see her hobbies, personality, outlook on life, etc. You said her friend circle is visible for three days - OK, this is also a topic. You tell her directly: I heard that you can see people with stories in your circle of friends every three days. We can continue chatting next.

As long as you add WeChat, you can have a starting point for dating girls, and then you can expand the topic based on the girls’ replies. Even if you really don’t know how to continue the conversation, I’ll give you a universal formula: I’ll share with you the most universal reply idea—describe your feelings.

That is to say, what are you thinking in your heart now? When a girl replies to you like this, just tell her how you feel. : I feel curious, I feel bored, fun, humorous, etc. These are all fine. This is your true inner feeling and evaluation, so that the chat will not appear to be matter-of-fact. Because you are describing feelings, but all feelings are perceptual models, and rationality will debate facts and discuss matters based on facts.

For example, you will understand:

Female: I am 20, how old are you

Male: 22

Female: Then you are quite young

Male: I am not young/I am 22/You think I am older than you (rational thinking, distinguishing right from wrong)

And if at this time you Using the method of "expressing feelings" will completely avoid the feeling that the debate is about discussing the matter.

Male: It feels very serious to chat with you

——You don’t have to worry about what she says. As long as she makes you feel serious, you can just say it. This is a fact and a feeling. Many people will want to use language to identify, but there is no need at all. You just need to say how you feel.

When you don’t know what to reply, you can reply with feelings. She won’t be able to argue with you even if she wants to, because you are talking about feelings. Once you learn this little trick, you can start talking about the following topics.

2. The underlying logic of high emotional intelligence in chatting

We often talk about "high emotional intelligence". What is high emotional intelligence? What is high emotional intelligence when chatting? High emotional intelligence does not mean that you have all kinds of rhetoric, nor does it mean that you are glib. You can easily influence others with your words, and a high-emotional businessman will not be influenced by emotions, but will use himself to influence other people's emotions.

It's like if you want to influence someone. Angry - Just blame him. If he has average emotional intelligence, he will be affected by such external language. He will not be able to notice that his emotions are ignited by your words. Even if you say this sentence casually, even You said it deliberately to make him angry. In this way, you can easily influence others.

People with high emotional intelligence will not be easily influenced by other people's emotions. He gets very angry and thinks about controlling his emotions before getting angry. Is this just to make me angry? What is his purpose?

Therefore, you will find that sometimes people with high emotions will not be easily affected. Others are influenced by their emotions. What do you mean, I don’t change my emotions at all, I only think about the meaning behind them.

They can even use their own emotional changes to influence others, such as deliberately getting angry or yelling deliberately. Yelling, in fact, I don’t care about it at all - just using the emotion of "anger" to calm others down is achieved.

This is high emotional intelligence. p> Our chatting can also bring emotions to others. Your accusations will make people feel disappointed, and your praise and recognition will make people feel happy. By constantly exchanging such emotions during chatting, we can bring different feelings to girls. Feelings. This is also the source of your charm. I hope you can also become a person with high emotional intelligence.