Many boys always feel awkward when chatting with girls, thinking that it’s because they don’t know how to chat. But in fact, there are not only boys who can’t chat in this world, but there are also many girls who can’t chat. Chatting with such girls is up to you. No matter how powerful the chatting routine is, there is no way to use it, and the conversation always ends in silence.
We often encounter this kind of problem in reality, especially when a girl takes the initiative to start a chat. When she opens her mouth, she always uses "Hello", "What are you doing", "Are you there" and other classic awkward chat starters. . It doesn't matter if you don't like her, but if you really like this girl, it will be a bit embarrassing to encounter such a situation where you can't pick up the conversation.
In fact, if you want to solve this problem, it is very simple. You just need to master the thinking of really chatting with girls and strengthen your on-the-spot coping ability. , just learn to communicate using reverse thinking.
Usually when we chat, we respond to what the other person says. This is called following the trend, also called normal thinking. But when we encounter some boring topics, or girls greet us with closed-ended opening remarks, it’s not easy to follow the trend.
For example, if a girl says to you: "Hello." Everyone will reply "Hello" without subconsciously. This is the trend thinking.
This is a typical boring opening statement, and it is also very consistent with the characteristics of closed topics. In more than 50% of the chat cases that the tutor has seen, they will not have a third sentence. Because after "Hello", you have to rack your brains and think hard about what to say next. Of the remaining 50%, there is a 90% chance that we will not be able to chat for more than 10 sentences!
Those who are a little more playful may add A few words: "You're good too" "You're good too little cutie", but the effect is still unsatisfactory. Usually both parties laugh at each other twice, and then fall into silence.
At this time, we can use contrary thinking that violates the convention to break this boring and closed topic.
For example, "Hello", under reverse thinking we can say: "Miss, I am not good at all." In this way, the girl will be curious, and she will ask "What's wrong with you? Why not Okay" and the like. At this time, we can just find something to share with her, breaking the original closed environment. Whatever we plan to talk about later will be much easier.
Men who are good at chatting are very good at guiding girls. He can pass on his abilities to girls in a conferential way, so that girls who are not good at chatting can also become good at chatting.
For example, in the above example, after the girl initiated the awkward chat topic, we used reverse thinking to create a curiosity for the girl. Driven by curiosity, the girlIf I take the initiative to ask you why it's not good, will you successfully give the girl a topic?
What's more, sometimes girls don't really know how to chat, they just can't let go in front of unfamiliar people. That's it, we cooperated for her and helped her solve the problem of how to start. After that, she talked endlessly.
It can be seen that when we chat with a girl, it really doesn’t matter whether she can talk or not.
Giving roses to others has lingering fragrance in your hands. If you are willing to give, it will bring rewards. In this way, except for girls who really hate you, there are really not many girls who can be silent and unable to talk!
